Relationships Beyond the Grave
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274. Do the different degrees which exist in the advancement of spirits
establish among the latter a hierarchy of powers? Are there, among spirits,
subordination and authority?
"Yes; the authority of spirits over one another, in virtue of
their relative superiority, is very great, and gives to the higher ones
a moral ascendancy over the lower ones which is absolutely irresistible."
- Can spirits of lower degree withdraw themselves from the authority
of those who are higher than themselves?
"I have said that the authority which comes of superiority is
irresistible."
275. Do the power and consideration which a man may have enjoyed
in the earthly life give him supremacy in the spirit-world?
"No; for in that World the humble are exalted and the proud abased.
Read the Psalms."
- In what sense should we understand exalting and abasing?
"Do you not know that spirits are of different orders, according
to their degree of merit? Therefore, he who has held the highest rank upon
the earth may find himself in the lowest rank in the world of spirits,
while his servitor may be in the highest. Is not this clear to you ? Has
not Jesus said that ‘Whosoever exalteth himself shall be abased, and whosoever
humbleth himself shall be exalted?"
276. When one who has been great upon the earth finds himself occupying
an inferior place in the spirit-world, does he feel humiliated by this
change of position?
"Often exceedingly so; especially if he have been haughty and
jealous."
277. When a soldier, after a battle, meets his general in the spirit-world,
does he still acknowledge him as his superior?
"Titles are nothing; intrinsic superiority is everything."
278. Do spirits of different orders mix together in the other?
"Yes, and no; that is to say, they see each other, but they are
none the less removed. They shun or approach one another according to the
antipathies or sympathies of their sentiments, just as is the case among
yourselves. The spirit-life is a whole world of varied conditions and relationships,
of which the earthly life is only the obscured reflex. Those of the same
rank are drawn together by a sort of affinity, and form groups or families
of spirits united by sympathy and a common aim-the good, by the desire
to do what is good, and the bad, by the desire to do evil, by the shame
of their wrong-doing, and by the wish to find them-selves among those whom
they resemble."
The spirit-world is like a great city, in which men of all ranks and
conditions see and meet one another without mixing together in which various
social circles are formed by similarity of tastes in which vice and virtue
elbow each other without speaking to one another.
279. Are all spirits reciprocally accessible to one another?
"The good go everywhere, as it is necessary that they should do,
in order to bring their influence to bear upon the evil-minded. But the
regions inhabited by them are inaccessible to inferior spirits, so that
the latter cannot trouble those happy abodes by the introduction of evil
passions."
280. What is the nature of the relations between good and bad spirits?
"The good ones endeavour to combat the evil tendencies of the
others, in order to aid them to raise themselves to a higher degree; this
intercourse, is, for the former, a mission."
281. Why do inferior spirits take pleasure in inducing us to do wrong?
"From jealousy. Not having earned a place among the good, their
desire is to prevent, as far as in them lies, other spirits, as yet inexperienced,
from attaining to the happiness from which they are excluded. They desire
to make others suffer what they suffer themselves. Do you not see the working
of the same desire among yourselves?"
282. How do spirits hold communication with one another?
"They see and comprehend one another. Speech is material; it is
a reflex of spirit. The universal fluid establishes a constant communication
between them; it is the vehicle by which thought is transmitted, as the
air, in your world, is the vehicle of sound. This fluid constitutes a sort
of universal telegraph, which unites all worlds, and enables spirits to
correspond from one world to another."
283. Can spirits hide their thoughts from each other? Can they hide
themselves from one another?
"No; with them everything is open, and especially so with those
who have attained to perfection. They may withdraw from one another, but
they are always visible to each other. This, however, is not an absolute
rule, for the higher spirits are perfectly able to render themselves invisible
to the lower ones, when they consider it to he useful to do so."
284. How can spirits, who have no longer a body, establish their
individuality, and cause it to be distinguishable from that of the other
spiritual beings by whom they are surrounded?
"Their individuality is established by their perispirit, which
makes of each spirit a separate personality, distinct from all others,
as the body does among men."
285. Do spirits recognise one another as having lived together upon
the earth? Does the son recognise his father, the friend, his friend?
"Yes; and from generation to generation."
- How do those who have known each other on the earth recognise one
another in the world of spirits?
“We see our past life, and read therein as in a hook; on seeing the
past of our friends and our enemies, we see their passage from life to
death."
286. Does the soul see, immediately on quitting its mortal remains,
the relations and friends who have returned before it into the world of
spirits?
"Immediately is not always the right word; for, as we have said,
the soul requires some time to resume its self-consciousness, and to shake
off the veil of materiality."
287. How is the soul received on its return to the spirit-word?
"That of the righteous, as a dearly-beloved brother, whose return
has been long waited for; that of the wicked, with contempt."
288. What sentiment is experienced by impure spirits at the sight
of another bad spirit, on his arrival among them?
"Such spirits are gratified at seeing others who resemble them,
and who, like them, are deprived of the highest happiness; just as a band
of scoundrels, upon the earth, are gratified at meeting with another scoundrel
like themselves."
289. Do our relatives and friends sometimes come to meet us when
we are leaving the earth?
"Yes, they come to meet the soul of those they love; they felicitate
it as one who has returned from a journey if it have escaped the dangers
of the road, and they aid it in freeing itself from the bonds of the flesh.
To be met thus by those they have loved is a favour granted to the souls
of the upright; while the soul of the wicked is punished by being left
alone, or is only surrounded by spirits like itself."
290. Are relatives and friends always reunited after death?
"That depends on their elevation, and on the road they have to
follow for their advancement. If one of them is further advanced, and progresses
more rapidly than the other, they cannot remain together: they may see
one another occasionally, but they can only he definitively reunited when
he who was behind is able to keep pace with him who was before, or when
both of them shall have reached the state of perfection. Moreover, the
privation of the sight of relatives and friends is sometimes inflicted
on a spirit as a punishment."
Sympathies and Antipathies of Spirits
- Eternal Halves
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291. Have spirits special personal affections among themselves, besides
the general sympathy resulting from similarity?
"Yes, just as among men; but the link between spirits is stronger
when the body is absent, because it is no longer exposed to the vicissitudes
of the passions."
292. Do spirits experience hatreds among themselves?
"Hatreds only exist among impure spirits. It is they who sow hatreds
and dissensions among men."
293. Do those who have been enemies on earth always retain their
resentment against one another in the spirit-world?
"No; for they often see that their hatred was stupid, and perceive
the puerility of the object by which it was excited. It is only imperfect
spirits who retain the animosities of the earthly life, of which they rid
themselves in proportion as they become purified. Spirits whose anger,
as men, has been caused by some merely material interest, forget their
dissension as soon as they are dematerialised. The cause of their dissension
no longer existing, they may, if there be no antipathy between them, see
each other again with pleasure."
Just as two schoolboys, when they have reached the age of reason, perceive
the folly of their boyish quarrels, and no longer keep up a grudge against
each other on account of them.
294. Is the remembrance of wrongs they may have done one another,
as men, an obstacle to sympathy between two spirits?
"Yes, it tends to keep them apart."
295. What is the sentiment, after death, of those whom we have wronged?
"If they are good, they forgive you as soon as you repent; if
they are bad, they may retain resentment against you, and may even pursue
you with their anger in another existence. This may be permitted by God
as a chastisement."
296. Are the individual affections of spirits susceptible of change?
"No; for they cannot be mistaken in one another. The mask under
which hypocrites hide themselves on earth has no existence in the world
of spirits, and their affections, when they are pure, are therefore unchangeable.
The love which unites them is a source of supreme felicity."
297. Does the affection which two spirits have felt for each other
upon the earth always continue in the spirit-world?
"Yes, undoubtedly, if that affection were founded on sympathy;
but, if physical causes have had more share in it than sympathy, it ceases
with those causes. Affections are more solid and lasting among spirits
than among men, because they are not subordinated to the caprices of material
interests and self-love."
298. Is it true that the souls of those who will eventually be united
in affection are predestined to this union from their beginning, and that
each of us has thus, in some part of the universe, his other half, to whom
he will some day be necessarily reunited?
"No, there is no such thing as any special and fated union between
any two souls. Union exists between all spirits, but in different degrees,
according to the rank they occupy,-that is to say, according to the degree
of perfection they have acquired; and the greater their perfection, the
more united they are. It is discord that produces all the ills of human
life. The complete and perfect happiness at which all spirits eventually
arrive is the result of concord."
299. In what way should we understand the term other half, sometimes
employed by spirits to designate other spirits for whom they have special
sympathy?
"The expression is incorrect. If one spirit were the half of another
spirit, he would, if separated from that other, be incomplete."
300. When two perfectly sympathetic spirits are reunited in the other
world, are they thus reunited for all eternity, or can they separate from
each other and unite themselves with other spirits?
"All spirits are united among themselves. I speak of those who
have reached the state of perfection. In the spheres below that state,
when a spirit passes from a lower sphere to a higher one, he does not always
feel the same sympathy for those whom he has quitted."
301. When two spirits are completely sympathetic, are they. the complement
of each other, or is that sympathy the result of their perfect identity
of character?
"The sympathy which attracts one spirit to another is the result
of the perfect concordance of their tendencies and instincts. If one of
them were necessary to complete the other, he would lose his individuality."
302. Does similarity of thoughts and of sentiments suffice to constitute
the kind of identity which is necessary to the production of perfect sympathy,
or is uniformity of acquired knowledge also required for its production?
"Perfect sympathy between two spirits results from equality in
the degree of their elevation."
303. May spirits, who are not now sympathetic, become so in the future?
"Yes, all will be sympathetic in course of time. Thus, of two
spirits who were once together, one may have advanced more rapidly than
the other; but the other, though now in a lower sphere, will by and by
have advanced sufficiently to be able to enter the higher sphere in which
the former is now residing. And their reunion will take place all the sooner
if the one who was most advanced should fail in the trials he has still
to undergo, and so should remain for a time just where he now is, without
making any further progress."
- May two spirits, who are now sympathetic, cease to be so?
"Certainly, if one of them is wanting in energy, and lags behind,
while the other is advancing."
The hypothesis of twin-souls is merely a figurative representation of
the union of two sympathetic spirits, and must not be understood literally.
The spirits who have made use of this expression are certainly not of high
order; and, therefore, as their range of thought is necessarily narrow,
they have sought to convey their meaning by using the terms they were accustomed
to employ in their earthly life. The idea that two souls were created for
each other, and that, after having been separated for a longer or shorter
period, they will necessarily be eventually reunited for all eternity,
is, therefore, to be entirely rejected.
Remembrance of Corporeal Existence
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304. Does spirit remember his corporeal existence?
"Yes; having lived many times as a human being, he remembers what
he has been, and often smiles pityingly at the follies of his past."
As a man, who has reached the age of reason, smiles at the follies of
his youth and the silliness of his childhood.
305. Does the remembrance of his corporeal existence present itself
to a spirit, complete, and spontaneously, immediately after his death?
"No; it comes back to him little by little, in proportion as he
fixes his attention upon it, as objects gradually become visible out of
a fog."
306. Does a spirit remember the details of all the events of his
life? Does he take in the whole of his life at a single retrospective glance?
"He remembers the things of his life more or less distinctly and
in detail, according to the influence they have exercised on his state
as a spirit; but you can easily understand that there are many things in
his life to which he attaches no importance, and which he does not even
seek to remember."
- Could he remember them if he wished to do so?
"He has the power of recalling the most minute details of every
incident of his life, and even of his thoughts; but when no useful purpose
would be served by exerting this power, he does not exert it."
307. In what way does his past life present itself to a spirit’s
memory? Is it through an effort of his imagination, or is it like a picture
displayed before his eyes?
"It comes back to him in both ways. All the actions which he has
an interest in remembering appear to him as though they were present; the
others are seen by him more or less vaguely in his thought, or are entirely
forgotten. The more dematerialised he is, the less importance does he attach
to material things. It has often happened to you, on evoking some wandering
spirit who has just left the earth, to find that he remembers neither the
names of persons whom he liked, nor details which to you appear to be important.
He cares but little about them, and they have faded from his memory. But
you always find that he perfectly remembers the main facts of his life
which have conduced to his intellectual and moral progress."
308. Does a spirit remember all the existences which have preceded
the one he has just quitted?
"His entire past is spread out before him like the stages already
accomplished by a traveller, but, as we have told you, he does not remember
all his past actions with absolute precision; he remembers them more or
less clearly in proportion to the influence they have had upon his present
state. As to his earliest existences, those which may be regarded as constituting
the period of spirit-infancy, they are lost in vagueness, and disappear
in the night of oblivion."
309. How does a spirit regard the body he has just quitted?
"As an uncomfortable garment that hampered him, and that he is
delighted to be rid of."
- What feeling is produced in him by seeing the decomposition of
his body?
" Almost always that of indifference; as something about which
he no longer cares."
310. After a time, does a spirit recognise the mortal remains, or
other objects, that once belonged to him?
"Sometimes he does so; but this depends on the more or less elevated
point of view from which he regards terrestrial things."
311. Is a spirit's attention attracted to the material relics of
himself by the respect entertained for those objects by his survivors,
and does he see this respect with pleasure?
"A spirit is always gratified at being held in kindly remembrance
by those he has left. The objects thus preserved in remembrance of him
serve to recall him to the memory of those by whom they are preserved;
but it is the action of their thought which attracts him, and not those
objects."
312. Do spirits retain the remembrance of the sufferings endured
by them in their last corporeal existence?
"They frequently do so; and this remembrance makes them realise
all the more vividly the worth of the felicity they enjoy as spirits."
313. Does he who has been happy down here regret his terrestrial
enjoyments on quitting the earth?
"Only spirits of inferior degree can regret material satisfactions
in harmony with impurity of nature, and which are expiated by suffering.
For spirits of higher degrees of elevation, the happiness of eternity is
immeasurably preferable to the ephemeral pleasures of the earthly life."
As the adult despises what constituted the delights of is infancy.
314. When a man, who has commenced a series of important labours
in view of some useful end, has seen these labours interrupted by death,
does he, in the other world, feel regret at having had to leave them unfinished?
"No, because he sees that others are destined to complete them.
On the contrary, he endeavours to act upon the minds of other human beings,
so as to lead them to carry on what he had begun. His aim while upon the
earth was to be useful to the human race: his aim is the same in the spirit-world."
315. When a man has left behind him works of art or of literature,
does he preserve for them in the other life the interest he took in them
while living upon the earth?
"He judges them from another point of view, according to his elevation,
and he often blames what he formerly admired."
316. Does a spirit still take an interest in the labours which are
going on upon the earth, in the progress of the arts and sciences?
"That depends on his degree of elevation, and on the mission he
may have to fulfil. What appears magnificent to you often appears a very
small matter to spirits; if they take an interest in it, it is only as
a man of learning takes an interest in the work of a school-boy. They examine
whatever indicates the elevation of incarnated spirits and mark the degree
of their progress."
317. Do spirits, after death, retain any preference for their native
country?
"For spirits of elevated degree, their country is the universe;
in regard to the earth, their only preference is for the place in which
there is the greatest number of persons with whom they are in sympathy."
The situation of spirits, and their way of looking at things, are infinitely
varied, according to their various degrees of moral and intellectual development.
Spirits of a high order generally make but short sojourns upon the earth
all that goes on here is so paltry in comparison with the grandeurs of
infinity, the matters to which men attribute most importance appear to
them so puerile, that the things of this earth have very little interest
for them, unless they have been sent to it for the purpose of quickening
the progress of its people. Spirits of lower degree visit our earth more
frequently, but they judge its affairs from a higher point of view than
that of their corporeal life. The common ruck of spirits may be said to
be sedentary' among us they constitute the great mass of the ambient population
of the invisible world. They retain very much the same ideas, tastes, and
tendencies which they had while clothed with their corporeal envelope,
and mix themselves up with our gatherings, our occupation, our amusements
in all of which they take a part more or, less active according to their
character. Being no longer able to satisfy their material passions, they
take delight in witnessing the excesses of those who abandon themselves
to their indulgence, to which they excite them by every means in their
power. Among their number are some who are better disposed, and who see
and observe in order to acquire knowledge and to advance.
318. Do spirits modify their ideas in the other life?
"Very considerably. A spirit's ideas undergo very great modifications
in proportion as he becomes dematerialised, He may sometimes retain the
same ideas for a long period, but little by little the influence of matter
diminishes, and he sees more clearly. It is then that he seeks for the
means of advancing."
319. As spirits had already lived in the other world before being
incarnated, why do they feel astonished on re-entering that world?
"This feeling is only momentary, and results from the confusion
that follows their waking; they soon recover their knowledge of themselves,
as the memory of the past comes back to them, and the impression of the
terrestrial life becomes effaced." (Vide 163 et seq.)
Commemoration of the Dead - Funerals
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320. Are spirits affected by the remembrance of those whom they have
loved on earth?
"Very much more so than you are apt to suppose. If they are happy
this remembrance adds to their happiness; if they are unhappy, it affords
them consolation."
321. Are spirits specially attracted towards their friends upon the
earth by the return of the day which, in some countries, is consecrated
to the memory of those who have quitted this life? Do they make it a point
to meet those who, on that day, go to pray beside the graves where their
mortal remains are interred?
"Spirits answer to the call of affectionate remembrance on that
day as they do on any other day."
- Do they, on that day, go specially to the burial-place of their
corporeal body?
"They go to the cemeteries in greater numbers on that day, because
called thither by the thoughts of a greater number of persons, but each
spirit goes solely for his own friends, and not for the crowd of those
who care nothing about him."
- In what form do they come to these places, and what would be their
appearance if they could render themselves visible to us?
"The form and appearance by which they were known during their
lifetime."
322. Do the spirits of those who are forgotten, and whose graves
no one visits, go to the cemeteries notwithstanding this neglect? Do they
feel regret at seeing that no one remembers them?
"What is the earth to them ? They are only linked to it by the
heart. If, upon the earth, no affection is felt for a spirit, there is
nothing that can attach him to it; he has the whole universe before him."
323. Does a visit made to his grave give more pleasure to a spirit
than a prayer offered for him by friends in their own home?
"A visit made to his grave is a way of showing to a spirit that
he is not forgotten; it is a sign. As I have told you, it is the prayer
that sanctifies the action of the memory; the place where it is offered
is of little importance, if it come from the heart."
324. When statues or other monuments are erected to persons who have
quitted this life, are the spirits of those persons present at their inauguration;
and do they witness such ceremonies with pleasure?
"Spirits often attend on such occasions, when able to do so; but
they attach less importance to the honours paid to them than to the remembrance
in which they are held."
325. What makes some persons desire to be buried in one place rather
than in another? Do they go thither more willingly offer their death? And
is it a sign of inferiority on the part of a spirit that lie should attribute
importance to a matter so purely material?
"That desire is prompted by a spirit's affection for certain places
and is a sign of moral inferiority. To an elevated spirit, what is one
spot of earth more than another ? Does he not know that his foul will be
reunited with those he loves, even though their bones are separated?
- Is it futile to bring together the mortal remains of all the members
of a family in the same burial-place?
"Such reunion is of little importance to spirits ; but it is useful
to men, whose remembrance of those who have gone before them is thus strengthened
and rendered more serious."
326. When the soul has returned into spirit-life, is it gratified
by the honours paid to its mortal remains?
"When a spirit has reached a certain degree of advancement, he
is purified from terrestrial vanities, for he comprehends their futility.
But there are many spirits who, in the early period of their return to
the other life, take great pleasure in the honours paid to their memory,
or are much disturbed at finding themselves forgotten; for they still retain
some of the false ideas they held during their earthly life."
327. Do spirits ever attend their own funeral?
"Spirits very often do so; but, in many cases, without understanding
what is going on, being still in the state of confusion that usually follows
death."
- Do they feel flattered by the presence of a large concourse of
persons at their funeral?
"More or less so, according to the sentiment which has brought
them together."
328. Is a spirit ever present at the meetings of his heirs?
"Almost always. Providence has so ordained it for the spirit's
own instruction, and for the chastisement of selfishness. The deceased
is thus enabled to judge of the worth of the protestations of affection
and devotion addressed to him during his life and his disappointment on
witnessing the rapacity of those who dispute the property he has left is
often very great. But the punishment of greedy heirs will come in due time."
329. Is the respect which mankind, in all ages and among all peoples,
has always instinctively shown to the dead, to be attributed to an intuitive
belief in a future state of existence?
"The one is the natural consequence of the other; were it not
for that belief, such respect would have neither object nor meaning."